3 Reasons Why Emotions Disappear

3 Reasons Why
Emotions Disappear

By Jesse Harshbarger, BCHt, NLP

The very moment you make a decision, your emotional, cognitive and temporal focus instantly evaluate the risks versus the rewards of your new decision. Almost simultaneously a feedback mechanism is constructed, and henceforth automatically runs with each subsequent decision. This is why you learned something when you were two and it still holds true, even if you don’t remember why, and why you are still controlled by an event which there is no present value or current relevance to your past decision.

The decisions most affected by this sort of construction are those made in the heat of the moment; those not consciously acted upon. (Not so much for those decisions stemming from rational, knowledge-based inferences.) The decisions we make in the heat of the moment are generally those that after the fact dominate our thoughts with “Why?” and we tend to regret them later on.

Here are three different perspectives to effectively disassociate from emotions:

1. Psychological: Leslie Cameron-Bandler in The Emotional Hostage, 1987, and Alfred Korzybski, Science and Sanity, 1933, state all emotions require time to manifest, to reveal their meaning to the individual. Therefore, imagining an emotion from outside of the original perspective, different from when conceived, essentially removes the emotion from the original event and its impact is lessoned or completely removed.
2. Metaphysical: The book, A Course of Miracles, attributes all emotion to one emotion, love. The negative emotions are subcategorized under fear and therefore an illusion (for it hasn’t happened.) Now, when the emotion is taken out of context, its deceptive qualities are revealed and when this is understood, the emotion disappears; in the same way as an illusion when it is revealed.
3. Quantum physics: Taking a present perspective of a past event before it occurred is akin to a multidimensional opposite of the present. It’s like looking into the mirror of now. The once solidified boundaries of the emotion are challenged by their polar mirror opposites and subsequently canceled out and disappear.

Your past decisions have formed your current beliefs and this is what now dictates your present actions. It is important to recognize the negative and positive affects past emotions have played in your decision-making as well as how past emotions continue to be a major factor in your daily decisions.

Perhaps understanding how past emotions disappear will help you form better and healthier emotions for your future, now.

 

Healthy Mind & Healthy Body

Nutrition is very important to the athlete. The source of the food is important. If the athlete ingests empty calories, void of quality carbohydrates, protein and fat, the athlete will surely pay the price through degraded or weak performance. We know that glucose is used for energy. Consistently eating quality carbohydrates is important to maintaining the levels of glycogen stores within the muscles. Carb-loading is important to anticipated prolonged activity (eating a lot of carbs 2-3 days before an event.) On the opposite side of what to do, eating a candy bar or sugar before an event isn’t necessarily a good idea and may degrade performance. Sugar needs water to be assimilated within the body. What do we need water for while being active? To perspire and cool down the body. Eating sugar before activity will tend to steal away the water from the body and causes an insulin spike. After the spike, the blood sugar is lowered and the athlete will certainly feel the side effects.

Good training will not overcome poor nutrition. Good nutrition will not overcome poor training. Therefore, do not think nutrition and training are directly correlated. The two are symbiotic per se, but not directly consequential. Training the muscles and the brain are important to technical performance, speed of completion, accuracy, and cerebral tactician (smart choices against opponents.) To an ultimate extent, what you eat doesn’t affect this. And how you eat is not enough to overcome poor training habits or schedules. The symbiotic nature of the two is such that each must be conducted correctly in order to produce the best results. Eating right will keep your innards functioning properly, which is helpful to your muscles and body. Training right will keep your body fluid and regular; just like over-training can over-task your digestive and recovery systems.

How Now Brown Cow?

Sometimes we focus on lack… instead we should focus on abundance, or what we do have. With a focus on “having it”, owning a focus like this, you begin to see what you have and this tends to lead to attracting more. …remember the “don’t think about the blue elephant” concept? or the invisible Ape video? Where our focus is, we get more of… Now, about “it’s not how well you do it, it’s about what you do”… Much better than the opposite, when you are doing something you love, you will always be happy doing it, even when not doing it perfectly… and, a bit more, if you are doing good deeds, then you’re doing good deeds… progress is progress, better is better, more is more. Perfection is an illusion, delusion and if realized, a singular perception. Your perfection exists within the construct of allowing; begin to accept and allow, again and again. start now. or right now.

‪#‎justdoitnow‬ ‪#‎nowbrowncow‬ ‪#‎moo‬

No More Fear for Mateo

Imagine how living with fear affects your health, your heart, your blood pressure, your skin, and your hair! The greater your fear, the greater the negative consequence to your health, mentally, physically and spiritually, causing you to age faster and faster.

For longer than the past 15 years I’ve been in the service industry, providing services while sometimes being financially compensated and other times the reward was intrinsic, felt within. I think it is quite possible there have been more occasions where I have provided my services for the mere asking. My favorites are the times I have been treated to a family BBQ and engaging conversation while playing with the kids and the family dog. I recall vividly working with the many people whom I only interacted with for the brief moments of time while I was helping them. In each of these interactions I had a specific and focused intention to promote and encourage their health; physical, mental and spiritual.

One occasion I was driving as a taxi service and I received a notice for a pick up request. I accepted the request and I picked up the rider, Mateo. Mateo was enthusiastic right from the start, expressing curiosity more than other riders who engage me in conversation.   He asked me what else I did for work and when I mentioned Neuro Linguistic Programming and hypnosis, a barrage of questions followed, “How does it work?”, “Who does it work on?”, “What kind of things can it work on?” and many more, one right after the other, without waiting for my response. I thought a quick demonstration would be fun and worth much more than “text book” responses, but I was unsure if we would have enough time during our short ride to the movie theater.

I asked young Mateo, “Do you have any fears? What is your greatest fear?” Right away he said, “Spiders!” I could tell that his fear was high for just his mention of spiders caused a physical response. Mateo rated his fear a 10, on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being “I’m going to die right now!” While talking with Mateo, I listened for his context, structure and his process for his fear. This revealed to me his “pattern”, the how and why he was afraid of spiders. From his responses and the speed of traffic, I decided to run a simple and effective interactive visualization technique.

Through a few quick visualizations, and a series of reframes, Mateo’s perspective of spiders began to change. His fear quickly diminished and as we sat in front of the theater, Mateo turned to me and said, “Huh… spiders are okay.” The best part was what he said last, “Jesse, you have changed my life.”

How cool was that?

Jesse Harshbarger, BCHt, NLP, MER®, LMT, CPT

Sports Therapy, Fitness & Nutrition,  Success Coaching & Quit Smoking Specialist
Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming
Master Practitioner of Mental and Emotional Release Therapy®
National Guild of Hypnotists Board Certified Hypnotherapist
Recognized and Certified through The Association for Integrative Psychology
http://www.jesseharshbarger.com  or  http://jesse.coach

Needs & Values

A need is something that you meet, for survival, automatically connecting you to something. The needs are hardwired in the brain. (dynamic)

A value is something that you move towards, believe in, and gravitate towards and is important to you. Values are like an idea or belief system that causes you to believe it’s important whether you have it or not. (static)

All Pain Is In The Brain – Emotional & Physical – Hypnosis for Pain Control

Pain is not transmitted to the brain. Injury information is transmitted to the brain. The brain then interprets and translates the information. This means, pain is in the brain… it is a perception.  Add in an emotional component and get interesting results.

Scientists have come up with great drugs for treating pain.  These drugs also have a great amount of side effects caused by the fact that drugs have no targeting ability.  Once in our system, drugs are everywhere in our system.  It turns out that our nerve centers and receptors are extremely sensitive and particular.  Small fibers of the body are responsible for most of our perception of pain.  Large fibers with increased activity can actually reduce pain as demonstrated when you touch something hot (small fiber) and shake your hand or arm or maybe jump up and down (large fiber).  This activation of your large fibers tends to block the messages coming from the small fibers.

Why does mixing chili pepper with the seeds in your bird feeder work at keeping away the squirrel (mammal) while the birds are unaffected?

Plants activate the nerve centers of mammals; Capsicum, cinnamon, chili pepper, Camphor, Ginkgo, St. John’s Wort, Kava, Valerian… hops as a calming and sleep promoting drug, lemon balm as a sedative, passion flower for nervous restlessness, lavender flower as a sedative and, stimulative to the nervous system are plants like coffee, tea, cocoa, guarana, Maté, Kola, TOBACCO, Areca, Lobelia, Ephedra, Khat.

Placebo effect: Also called the placebo response. A remarkable phenomenon in which a placebo — a fake treatment, an inactive substance like sugar, distilled water, or saline solution — can sometimes improve a patient’s condition simply because the person has the expectation that it will be helpful.

A patient given a placebo, told by a Doctor it will work, will most often work.  Placebos work in the brain and modify chemicals psychologically.  Placebos are blocked by the drug naloxone.  Acupuncture is blocked by naloxone.  Acupuncture does not show to work on pain in children.  Does this mean acupuncture works by placebo?

*Of curious interest to the most studied scientists, Hypnosis for pain control does not correlate to placebo.  Under hypnosis, the information is sent to the brain, received by the brain, processed by the brain, but pain is not perceived or pain is felt at a much smaller degree.  The power of hypnosis is demonstrated by the selective block of the emotional component.

What’s your experience with pain control?  What will you do now?  How will you cope with pain?  Hypnosis is noninvasive way to treat pain locally and systemically and used to treat chronic pain for inhibition. Living with pain is no way to live.  Pain is a complex perception.  You know pain is “in the brain” and now you have some new insights to help you deal with pain.

What’s Your Matrix Final Scene?

Maybe…  It’s not about Neo.

There is some belief that you have which is simply not working for you.

I don’t know what it is, but I know that it is costing you.  This belief was formed at a time in your life when it seemed necessary, and it may have helped you then… but now, you no longer need it… and it’s working against you.

Self defeating….or a self-fulfilling prophecy…..that you don’t feel worthy of an abundance or success.  One or the other.  You would know better than I.

… changing your beliefs is perfectly fine,

once you see it is not working for you, the change you need will happen

Only YOU would know which belief that is…only YOU can decide to change it..

it is probably based upon some old, deep seated need…

We all have deep seeded needs to feel fulfilled in some way or another.  But sometimes we try to meet those needs through unrealistic behaviors, based upon believing that they will work using old out-dated beliefs which can no longer serve us.

Our Needs:  To love and be loved; To feel worthwhile, important, and necessary; To grow and have fun; To survive.  we all feel a need for certainty, from the time we are born… that we will be fed, cared for..  this changes as we grow older.  we have a need for variety, to feel excited, another need is of significance, necessary, that we are appreciated…  we need connection and love,  to feel like we are growing and making progress in our knowledge, experiences and our interactions, … and of course we need to give, a feeling of contribution, through giving we also receive and grow, and we feel connected, secure and uncertain, uncertainty provides us with variety.  It is through contribution, we realize all of our needs…

There is a belief…believe it or not…there is another one that that will serve you better.  Only time will tell whether or not you will allow it to work for you. … when you have decided … it’s time.

We have the tools and techniques you must have to successfully prepare and conduct a productive, results-driven life.  Now, contact me and let’s see if we are a match and start this process today.

Sincerely,

Jesse Harshbarger

www.alohahands.com