Health * Wealth * Happiness

No More Fear for Mateo

Imagine how living with fear affects your health, your heart, your blood pressure, your skin, and your hair! The greater your fear, the greater the negative consequence to your health, mentally, physically and spiritually, causing you to age faster and faster.

For longer than the past 15 years I’ve been in the service industry, providing services while sometimes being financially compensated and other times the reward was intrinsic, felt within. I think it is quite possible there have been more occasions where I have provided my services for the mere asking. My favorites are the times I have been treated to a family BBQ and engaging conversation while playing with the kids and the family dog. I recall vividly working with the many people whom I only interacted with for the brief moments of time while I was helping them. In each of these interactions I had a specific and focused intention to promote and encourage their health; physical, mental and spiritual.

One occasion I was driving as a taxi service and I received a notice for a pick up request. I accepted the request and I picked up the rider, Mateo. Mateo was enthusiastic right from the start, expressing curiosity more than other riders who engage me in conversation.   He asked me what else I did for work and when I mentioned Neuro Linguistic Programming and hypnosis, a barrage of questions followed, “How does it work?”, “Who does it work on?”, “What kind of things can it work on?” and many more, one right after the other, without waiting for my response. I thought a quick demonstration would be fun and worth much more than “text book” responses, but I was unsure if we would have enough time during our short ride to the movie theater.

I asked young Mateo, “Do you have any fears? What is your greatest fear?” Right away he said, “Spiders!” I could tell that his fear was high for just his mention of spiders caused a physical response. Mateo rated his fear a 10, on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being “I’m going to die right now!” While talking with Mateo, I listened for his context, structure and his process for his fear. This revealed to me his “pattern”, the how and why he was afraid of spiders. From his responses and the speed of traffic, I decided to run a simple and effective interactive visualization technique.

Through a few quick visualizations, and a series of reframes, Mateo’s perspective of spiders began to change. His fear quickly diminished and as we sat in front of the theater, Mateo turned to me and said, “Huh… spiders are okay.” The best part was what he said last, “Jesse, you have changed my life.”

How cool was that?

Jesse Harshbarger, BCHt, NLP, MER®, LMT, CPT


Sports Therapy, Fitness & Nutrition,  Success Coaching & Quit Smoking Specialist
Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming
Master Practitioner of Mental and Emotional Release Therapy®
National Guild of Hypnotists Board Certified Hypnotherapist
Recognized and Certified through The Association for Integrative Psychology  or

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