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3 Reasons Why Emotions Disappear

3 Reasons Why
Emotions Disappear

By Jesse Harshbarger, BCHt, NLP

The very moment you make a decision, your emotional, cognitive and temporal focus instantly evaluate the risks versus the rewards of your new decision. Almost simultaneously a feedback mechanism is constructed, and henceforth automatically runs with each subsequent decision. This is why you learned something when you were two and it still holds true, even if you don’t remember why, and why you are still controlled by an event which there is no present value or current relevance to your past decision.

The decisions most affected by this sort of construction are those made in the heat of the moment; those not consciously acted upon. (Not so much for those decisions stemming from rational, knowledge-based inferences.) The decisions we make in the heat of the moment are generally those that after the fact dominate our thoughts with “Why?” and we tend to regret them later on.

Here are three different perspectives to effectively disassociate from emotions:

  1. Psychological: Leslie Cameron-Bandler in The Emotional Hostage, 1987, and Alfred Korzybski, Science and Sanity, 1933, state all emotions require time to manifest, to reveal their meaning to the individual. Therefore, imagining an emotion from outside of the original perspective, different from when conceived, essentially removes the emotion from the original event and its impact is lessened or completely removed.
  2. Metaphysical: The book, A Course of Miracles, attributes all emotion to one emotion, love. The negative emotions are subcategorized under fear and therefore an illusion (for it hasn’t happened.) Now, when the emotion is taken out of context, its deceptive qualities are revealed and when this is understood, the emotion disappears; in the same way as an illusion when it is revealed.
  3. Quantum physics: Taking a present perspective of a past event before it occurred is akin to a multidimensional opposite of the present. It’s like looking into the mirror of now. The once solidified boundaries of the emotion are challenged by their polar mirror opposites and subsequently canceled out and disappear.

Your past decisions have formed your current beliefs and this is what now dictates your present actions. It is important to recognize the negative and positive affects past emotions have played in your decision-making as well as how past emotions continue to be a major factor in your daily decisions.

Perhaps understanding how past emotions disappear will help you form better and healthier emotions for your future, now.

 

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Needs & Values

A need is something that you meet, for survival, automatically connecting you to something. The needs are hardwired in the brain. (dynamic)

A value is something that you move towards, believe in, and gravitate towards and is important to you. Values are like an idea or belief system that causes you to believe it’s important whether you have it or not. (static)

What’s Your Matrix Final Scene?

Maybe…  It’s not about Neo.

There is some belief that you have which is simply not working for you.

I don’t know what it is, but I know that it is costing you.  This belief was formed at a time in your life when it seemed necessary, and it may have helped you then… but now, you no longer need it… and it’s working against you.

Self defeating….or a self-fulfilling prophecy…..that you don’t feel worthy of an abundance or success.  One or the other.  You would know better than I.

… changing your beliefs is perfectly fine,

once you see it is not working for you, the change you need will happen

Only YOU would know which belief that is…only YOU can decide to change it..

it is probably based upon some old, deep seated need…

We all have deep seeded needs to feel fulfilled in some way or another.  But sometimes we try to meet those needs through unrealistic behaviors, based upon believing that they will work using old out-dated beliefs which can no longer serve us.

Our Needs:  To love and be loved; To feel worthwhile, important, and necessary; To grow and have fun; To survive.  we all feel a need for certainty, from the time we are born… that we will be fed, cared for..  this changes as we grow older.  we have a need for variety, to feel excited, another need is of significance, necessary, that we are appreciated…  we need connection and love,  to feel like we are growing and making progress in our knowledge, experiences and our interactions, … and of course we need to give, a feeling of contribution, through giving we also receive and grow, and we feel connected, secure and uncertain, uncertainty provides us with variety.  It is through contribution, we realize all of our needs…

There is a belief…believe it or not…there is another one that that will serve you better.  Only time will tell whether or not you will allow it to work for you. … when you have decided … it’s time.

We have the tools and techniques you must have to successfully prepare and conduct a productive, results-driven life.  Now, contact me and let’s see if we are a match and start this process today.

Sincerely,
Jesse Harshbarger

Referential Index – NLP

The referential index in NLP is the subject of the sentence. Eg He did it well. ‘He’ is the referential index.

via Referential Index – NLP.

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