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Needs & Values

A need is something that you meet, for survival, automatically connecting you to something. The needs are hardwired in the brain. (dynamic)

A value is something that you move towards, believe in, and gravitate towards and is important to you. Values are like an idea or belief system that causes you to believe it’s important whether you have it or not. (static)


Pain is not transmitted to the brain. Injury information is transmitted to the brain. The brain then interprets and translates the information. This means, pain is in the brain… it is a perception.  Add in an emotional component and get interesting results.

Scientists have come up with great drugs for treating pain.  These drugs also have a great amount of side effects caused by the fact that drugs have no targeting ability.  Once in our system, drugs are everywhere in our system.  It turns out that our nerve centers and receptors are extremely sensitive and particular.  Small fibers of the body are responsible for most of our perception of pain.  Large fibers with increased activity can actually reduce pain as demonstrated when you touch something hot (small fiber) and shake your hand or arm or maybe jump up and down (large fiber).  This activation of your large fibers tends to block the messages coming from the small fibers.

Why does mixing chili pepper with the seeds in your bird feeder work at keeping away the squirrel (mammal) while the birds are unaffected?

Plants activate the nerve centers of mammals; Capsicum, cinnamon, chili pepper, Camphor, Ginkgo, St. John’s Wort, Kava, Valerian… hops as a calming and sleep promoting drug, lemon balm as a sedative, passion flower for nervous restlessness, lavender flower as a sedative and, stimulative to the nervous system are plants like coffee, tea, cocoa, guarana, Maté, Kola, TOBACCO, Areca, Lobelia, Ephedra, Khat.

Placebo effect: Also called the placebo response. A remarkable phenomenon in which a placebo — a fake treatment, an inactive substance like sugar, distilled water, or saline solution — can sometimes improve a patient’s condition simply because the person has the expectation that it will be helpful.

A patient given a placebo, told by a Doctor it will work, will most often work.  Placebos work in the brain and modify chemicals psychologically.  Placebos are blocked by the drug naloxone.  Acupuncture is blocked by naloxone.  Acupuncture does not show to work on pain in children.  Does this mean acupuncture works by placebo?

*Of curious interest to the most studied scientists, Hypnosis for pain control does not correlate to placebo.  Under hypnosis, the information is sent to the brain, received by the brain, processed by the brain, but pain is not perceived or pain is felt at a much smaller degree.  The power of hypnosis is demonstrated by the selective block of the emotional component.

What’s your experience with pain control?  What will you do now?  How will you cope with pain?  Hypnosis is noninvasive way to treat pain locally and systemically and used to treat chronic pain for inhibition. Living with pain is no way to live.  Pain is a complex perception.  You know pain is “in the brain” and now you have some new insights to help you deal with pain.

squirrel eating nuts

Maybe…  It’s not about Neo.

There is some belief that you have which is simply not working for you.

I don’t know what it is, but I know that it is costing you.  This belief was formed at a time in your life when it seemed necessary, and it may have helped you then… but now, you no longer need it… and it’s working against you.

Self defeating….or a self-fulfilling prophecy…..that you don’t feel worthy of an abundance or success.  One or the other.  You would know better than I.

… changing your beliefs is perfectly fine,

once you see it is not working for you, the change you need will happen

Only YOU would know which belief that is…only YOU can decide to change it..

it is probably based upon some old, deep seated need…

We all have deep seeded needs to feel fulfilled in some way or another.  But sometimes we try to meet those needs through unrealistic behaviors, based upon believing that they will work using old out-dated beliefs which can no longer serve us.

Our Needs:  To love and be loved; To feel worthwhile, important, and necessary; To grow and have fun; To survive.  we all feel a need for certainty, from the time we are born… that we will be fed, cared for..  this changes as we grow older.  we have a need for variety, to feel excited, another need is of significance, necessary, that we are appreciated…  we need connection and love,  to feel like we are growing and making progress in our knowledge, experiences and our interactions, … and of course we need to give, a feeling of contribution, through giving we also receive and grow, and we feel connected, secure and uncertain, uncertainty provides us with variety.  It is through contribution, we realize all of our needs…

There is a belief…believe it or not…there is another one that that will serve you better.  Only time will tell whether or not you will allow it to work for you. … when you have decided … it’s time.

We have the tools and techniques you must have to successfully prepare and conduct a productive, results-driven life.  Now, contact me and let’s see if we are a match and start this process today.

Jesse Harshbarger

I saw that to accomplish anything I must bring all my physical and moral faculties in play, make the acquaintance of the great and the powerful, exercise strict self-control, and play the chameleon.
– Giacomo Casanova

Many people may think of Casanova as only a womanizer. To broaden that perspective a bit, think about how each of us desires for something more in life. Casanova believed to accomplish in life he needed to be able to adapt while in the face of other people. Casanova gained fame and influence as an adventurer. He traveled frequently while seeking fortune and resourcefully sought out prominent figures that had already achieved what he desired to call his own. He used charm and personality. Casanova accomplished socializing with royalty, popes and cardinals amongst many other socialites. As a librarian, he accomplished this celebrity through perfecting a chameleon like personality. He was able to assess and determine another person’s dominant personality trait and then almost magically establish a strong rapport with others with whom he only just met.

How adaptable are you? Being able to create rapport with people you know well can be challenging at times, let alone, creating rapport with a stranger. Those who do it naturally, without thinking about it, do so through a mental process that has become automatic. No matter how “natural” someone appears to be at any given skill, a skill by definition is always learned. So can you, learn, develop and grow your social skills. Yes, you can.

Begin developing your social awareness by watching others from afar. Noticing how people interact with one another and what they do is important. I think most important is to notice what people do to make others smile. Recognizing what is important to the person you are interacting with is key to establishing and building good rapport. Playing the chameleon, you will speak in a way that appeals to others, specifically the person you are attempting to build rapport. Casanova recognized that he had to use self-control and play to the desires or needs of others. This takes a certain discipline because sometimes it requires you to deviate from the “type” of person you identify yourself to be, your personality type, and your type of energy.

In order to develop a personality trait you find awkward to emulate or perhaps maybe you recognize you may be a bit weak in a certain area, you must train that part of you, the way a bodybuilder trains a body part to increase the size and shape. Through repetitious practice you will become the person you want to be. It will become easier and easier as you become more comfortable and feel more natural.

You must be able to play the chameleon. You have all of these social skills within you already. You just need to bring it out. You can be practical, social, funny, and sincere. Imagine being what you desire to be. Picture what you will see when being that person. What will you feel and how will it feel to you? Think about the sounds you will hear, and what you will hear yourself saying to others. You must stay within your ability to be comfortable and avoid the extreme personality. You must strike a balance with your desired improved trait in order to be received as natural and develop strong rapport.

Now, go out and practice on strangers. Someone you won’t see again. You develop a skill through lots of practice, don’t you? You will bring these skills out of you by molding and building on the innate skill you were born with. When you have practiced this several times you’ll start recognizing how much more often you present this new personality trait naturally when in the presence of those you might not have had such a strong rapport with in the past. You will start connecting with people through the emotion that comes from feeling connected with another person.

I hope this has been helpful to you. When you are more of a chameleon, you will seem to be more persuasive, alive, healthier and happier… and you might actualize real change within yourself and others also. I wish you the best in your endeavor to be more than who you are today. I can relate to the struggle. I also know we can overcome adversity and realize the type of happiness that comes from feeling secure and comfortable with others.

만날거예요, 만나겠어요, 만날게요 vs. 만났어요

  1. 만났어요” is past tense, meaning “met”.  You can also
    say it in a formal way, “
  1. 거예요, 만나겠어요, 날게요: future tense, each with slightly different
    usage and intent.

::  ()ㄹ거예요” indicates the simple future, and means
“am going to~” or “will~”. 
()ㄹ거예요” is used with first-person, second-person
and third-person perspective.  However, you can not use “’
()” with third-person perspective.

::  ” is a shortened form of  “” and it is often used in colloquial style.  

::  suffix  communicates the speaker’s future intention and strong will more than ()ㄹ거예요

한국어로 말하겠어요.”  implies stronger intention, more so than  한국어로 거예요.”

 나는 을게요.”  implies stronger intention, more so than “난는 먹을 거예요.”

한국어로 겠어요.
I will speak in Korean (more like announcing to the listener)
한국어로 거예요.
I will now speak in Korean; or could imply– I will now switch to speaking in
Korean; or also could imply – “I am determined to speak in Korean.”
(This could imply, regardless of what the listener wants to hear, “I’m still
going to speak in Korean.”) So first one is declaratory or announcing; second
is more to do with one’s will.

 All in all, the three are future tense with each conjugating the verb differently.

For instance:       나는 한국어를 공부 거예요.  (ok) 

        I will study Korean.

   나는 한국어를 공부하겠어요.   (ok)

will study Korean.

 “/” is
used to imply strong intention of the first-person speaker (

 /” should
not be used with third-person (his/her).

                        앤디는 한국어를 공부 거예요. (ok)
        Andy will study Korean.

                 X    앤디는 한국어를 공부하겠어요.  (Speaking about앤디 is a third-person perspective!)

거예요. Standard future tense “will eat” (could be
used to describe self or anyone else.)

I will eat it. (With intention, in the first-person — me, I, formal speaking

을게요.     I will eat it. Same as “겠습니다”, but more casual.


  1.  “”  (stronger intention)

 Verb stem (ends with or without 받침)  + 겠어요.

2.  “”  (stronger intention)

Verb stem ends with a vowel (no 받침) –>   게요게요.

은정씨는 우리만날 게요.

Verb stem ends with a consonant –> ()게요먹을게요.

은정씨는 먹을 게요

3.  “() 거예요)”

 verb stem ends with a vowel –>   거예요 거예요.

은정씨는 우리만날 거예요.

verb stem ends with a consonant –> () 거예요먹을 거예요.

은정씨는 참을 성이 많을 거예요.  (Eunjeong will have enduring patience.)

많이 인내 거예요.
인내하다= to endure)

갖다 + () 거예요. = 가질 거예요.
I don’t know why it’s not
가즐 거예요.

갖다 = 가지다 = to have .. they share the
same meaning.
가지다 + 거예요. = 가질 거예요.

참을성이 많을 거예요. means..”probably have
그는 참을 성이 많을 거예요means.. “he probably
has endurance”
(“endurance” used this way implies patience)

이제 겠어요?

(이에요, 이예요, 예요 are all the same. It all just depends on the 받침.)
( ‘
’ makes an adjective like delicious, ‘맛있다’ into an adverb, ‘looks deliciously.’

말하다; 말하겠다; 겄이다

What is the difference between
거예요 and 거에요?
the dictionary says
is correct, so
거에요 must not be correct.
거에요 can mean two things; will and probably

It’s often heard, ‘맛있겠다!’ which means, “it looks delicious” (or it
will be delicious)
맛있게 보이는 pasta예요. It’s tasty-looking pasta.

Question: How can hypnosis and NLP help me quit smoking?

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Answer: Your mind works on 2 levels – the conscious and the unconscious. Your unconscious mind is in charge of your habits, which is why so many people struggle when they make the conscious decision to quit smoking.

Hypnosis and Neuro Linguistic Programming, or NLP, are simply ways to communicate directly with your unconscious mind. The unconscious is the domain of your habits. Smoking tends to be an unconscious habit. So when we speak directly with your unconscious, we can expedite the process of quitting smoking.

We also like to refer to NLP as the study of excellence. It is the science and technology behind some of the most amazingly successful and powerful people on the planet. To name a few, Tony Robbins, Oprah, and Serena Williams all use hypnosis and NLP.

Would this be of interest to you, or not?

There’s more tendon sharing and motor unit mixing between the ring and middle finger digitations of the profundus than the superficialis.

this works when you bend your middle finger and hold it in place (one hand) because the tendon for your ring finger is connected to your middle finger. With the middle tendon stretched (bent) the ring finger cannot move. It’s aka “paralyzed finger” effect.

the tendon for your ring finger is connected to your middle finger. With the middle tendon stretched (bent)

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